All right wow you have your radio dial up because I Hello and welcome back or welcome as Hayes may be to yet another exciting episode of because I said so. One and only parenting podcast on the entire world wide web that's worth listening to if I do say so myself because it's not your same old same old is you're about to find out same old same old hoo ha. That the other parenting podcasters out there pandering. I'm your host John Rosemond renegade psychologist, Best Selling Author, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. For more on me, you can go to my primary website at parent guru.com. And yes, I am the parent guru. And please check out and if you are so inclined, subscribe to my substack bi weekly substack to confined@substack.com. So I learned a new word A while back, I was speaking to a group of about 500 publics, public school, teachers, school counselors, administrators. I won't say where because it's not relevant. That wouldn't be polite, what transpired. What I'm about for relate could have happened anywhere. In fact, it's probably not the last time it's going to happen to me. Even though it was a secular setting. And what I'm pretty sure was a largely secular crowd. I gave my usual message. From all that I could tell it was well received. I even referenced scripture a fair number of times, but never was specific about doing so. Very respectful of my hosts, sensitivities and biases. So when I'm in a secular setting, I don't identify my source. But my subtlety is not lost on people with a biblical worldview. So I talked about fathers and mothers and male parents and female parents and I talked about husbands and wives as if it was assumed that the terms reference biological males and biological females. And I talked about children being boys and girls, as if it was likewise assume that the terms refer to people with certain biological realities. You all hear where I'm going with this. When I was done, a good number of people wanted to talk to me. So I was one of the last people to leave the auditorium. When I came out into the lobby, a young woman I'd estimate late 20s, early 30s came up to me. She identified herself as a high school teacher and told me how much she enjoyed the talk. But I had affirmed her classroom discipline style, which was authoritative and no nonsense and therefore was somewhat out of step with the current fashion and education. Then she asked very politely, she could give me a suggestion. Sure, I said. So here was her suggestion, quote, you should consider being more inclusive. And quote, she said, how so? I asked, genuinely curious. Well, she said, You talk about husbands and wives and mothers and fathers and boys and girls, without seeming to realize that those roles are no longer sis gendered. cisgendered that's the new word I learned. They are gender fluid roles. Now. She said. Okay, so I had never heard the term cisgendered before so I didn't say anything. I just waited for her to elaborate. Sure enough elaborate she did. She said, quote, I know your generation is largely cisgendered. And so you can be forgiven to some degree. But you're eliminating some people from the conversation. You just need to consider that you're talking to lots of people who moved past those restriction. With that, she thanked me again, she was very polite, very respectful. And she walked off. So I had no idea what she was talking about what is cisgendered I didn't even know how to spell it. I had this fleeting thought that it had something to do with being a sissy. Which does nothing but betray my age. So I dismissed that thought as soon as that arose. Soon as I was in my car driving out of town I call my daughter Am I lovely through and through daughter is an evangelical Christian. But she's up to speed on the latest news from the front of the culture wars. So I got her on the phone and asked her Amy, what cisgendered means. It means you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. She told me it means you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. The gender I was assigned at birth. Like there was some question about it. Like it was up for discussion, I envision this committee of psychologists, psychiatrists, clinical social workers, you know, the usual suspects, discussing what gender to assign me. Finally, after much deliberation, deciding I was a boy not however, because I have male biological characteristics. But maybe because they needed a boy to balance the boy girl equation for the day or something. They could have flipped a coin even because according to the young teacher in question, who looked like a woman to me, but you know looks can be very deceiving these days. One's actual gender is not find any longer by biology. Rather one's gender as a matter of how one feels about oneself. That's what a 17 year old gender fluid person told me about two years ago. This person whose parents had been led to believe by narrow minded doctors and nurses when said person was born. Her parents had been led to believe she was a girl that she wasn't a girl. According to him, her he she was a boy. When I asked him her if he she had any male biological characteristics, he she told me no, he should he's he she did not have male biological characteristics. He she felt like a boy he she said, I asked him her to describe for me how boys felt because even though I identified in my cisgendered mind as a male, I could not for the life of me figure out how does how to describe how a male feels other than say not much thankfully. I never got an answer to my question because at that point, he she simply got up and walked out of the room. Oh, well. So after talking with my daughter and getting back to my hotel, I went to the internet and here's what I discovered. First, the term cisgendered was in zero usage until around 2008 when it was introduced into post modern progressive vocabulary and apparently took off second, it is now a word recognised by Merriam Webster which defines it as quote being a person whose gender identity corresponds with the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth. Okay, so there is no biological truth. There is no biological reality anymore. There are only interpret tations these interpretations are based strictly on people's feelings on their emotion. One no longer has a biologically defined gender one has a gender identity. Furthermore, whether one's gender identity corresponds with his her biology is irrelevant. In fact, a person who insists that he is male, simply because his biology is clearly male, is helplessly behind the culture curve. The same is true for a person who insists she is female simply because of her biology. Those people like me are our SIS gendered. I also discovered on the internet that the prefix says C I S, is Latin in origin, it means in Latin, on this side of, or on one side of so to be cisgendered means you're thinking in either or terms about things like gender. If you're thinking in either or terms about gender or anything else, for that matter, then according to the new Ultra hip, ultra cool, progressive, postmodern relativistic way of thinking you are, like, man, like a dinosaur or, like something and the only good thing about your like, existence is that you and like, people like you are like becoming like extinct. Like, actually, we're not becoming extinct. There are by God's grace, a good number of young people who are cisgendered which simply means they are not delusional when it comes to their self concept. The young people in question do not accept. They are male or female. They clearly recognize that they are, in fact, either male or female, that they cannot be male on Monday and female on Tuesday because they woke up on Tuesday feeling different than they felt on Monday and so on. They're actually young people in America and lots of them still. Who believe God created male and female just as we're told. Genesis chapter one, verse 27, which reads, so God created man in His own image. In the image of God, He created him. Male and female, He created them. So now in closing, I must point out that this postmodern gender relativism has been embraced by most mainstream Christian denominations. It's been embraced for sure by the Catholic Church, and won't admit it. But several parents have told me that Catholic priests have told them with a straight face, that it is possible for a person to be in the wrong body, that it's possible for girl for girl to be in a boy's body and vice versa. The nonsense has been embraced by the United Methodist Church, which has led to their split has been embraced by the liberal Presbyterian Church USA, and has recently become a topic of controversy in the Presbyterian Church of America, which has been up until now solidly conservative on theological matters. It's been embraced by the Episcopalians which caused them to fracture like the Methodists. And it's even being embraced by certain Baptist denominations. What a shame it is. That supposedly Christian churches I call them Chino churches, CH I N O, which means Christian and name only. A bought into the moral relativism of these postmodern times with the lame excuse. They don't want to exclude anyone. In the Gospel of Matthew, chapter 24, verses 27 through 29. Jesus tells His disciples that at the end times, it will be like it was in the days of Noah, in the days of Noah is a reference to when sexual corruption held sway on the earth. When all manner of sexual bound theories were transgressed including the sexual boundary between angels and humans. For more on that, see Genesis chapter six verses one through four. Jesus goes on to say that in the days of Noah, people were clueless as to what was coming. It just kept right on partying like it was 1999. And then the flood came and took them all away. Back then they were taken away. This time, they will be left behind. If we are on the end times, and I believe we are then all I can say is hallelujah. For one thing, I don't know how much more we meaning those of us who still think straight, the cisgendered that is, I don't know how much more we can take. Let's put another exciting episode because I said so. I'm your host John Roseman. I hope you enjoyed it. If you did tell your friends. Thanks for joining me
